I am back. It's been about a year and a lot has happened. A lot of people have asked me why I didn't keep my blog up. I don't really have an answer for that. So here's a little update...
How old is a man before he stops playing games on a woman? And I use the term man loosely. For those of you that either 1) don't remember or 2) didn't know, I was "dating" a guy named Jorge for roughly around a year and 4 or 5 months. So far the longest for me since my divorce. I actually thought I found a guy where I could have a steady relationship with and not a FWB but also not one where we are rushing to the alter either. But one where I could take to different social events and have fun without the pressure of him or I thinking we were going to get married. Sure it took a while for that to develop but I actually I found someone where I was progressing and not staying in the same situation. But then the games started. And honestly if I wanted to continue to be in a relationship where games were being played I would have stayed married. If I wanted a FWB situation I could have had one with someone who lived a little closer. Example would be that he says he misses me but then will break plans with me or when I invite him to functions he declines. Yet Jorge would say he doesn't want to have a FWB and he enjoys time we spend together and wants to move forward. Did I believe him?? Yes of course. Mainly because I wanted to. But actions speak louder then words. So yesterday when I broke it down for him (after excuses were made on why he couldn't meet me out) I asked him what he wanted. He asked me what I wanted and I answered and his response was that if I wasn't getting what I wanted from him I would have to make that decision for myself. And after I went through the emotions of being hurt and upset with his answer I have come to realize that he is right. I have a decision to make. And it's hard because I do like him and don't want to lose him yest at the same time I don't deserve to be treated as always being second either.
As I was getting ready to hang out with my friend Jay tonight Jorge happened to text me asking if I made it home safe. My first thought was that he doesn't deserve to know. And then after about an hour thinking about it I responded and said yes. He texted back and so did I. My responses were VERY short. His last response was that he does cares about me. Sorry but he doesn't get right to try and come back in. I am not falling for his games anymore. Why is it so hard for a guy to come out and say listen I like you but I am not ready for a relationship so let's just keep it as a FWB situation. Just keep me in the loop. At least then I know where I stand and what to expect. I can then decide on my own whether I can continue and not get feelings involved or whether my feelings are too deep and it wouldn't be good. But grow some balls and be a man and be honest.
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